Hi y’all! Audrey and Josh here. Today, we decided to write this post together. Sometimes I get emails/questions about our relationship, or tips on college dating/ long distance (we did over the summer!) so today we thought we would share our experience with long distance dating.
Josh first wants to state that he hates long distance. I do too ;). Josh first thought that it would be easy. I remember when he told me in April he was going home to Austin for the Summer I immediately panicked and told him it’s going to be so hard a part. He thought I was lying and joked it off. Well, a week into summer I think he realized I was right haha. Long distance is hard for anyone in general.
To start, Josh and I are best friends. We are very attached to one another and love seeing each other every day. Just the fact that we couldn’t be together for 5 mins each day was super hard on us. The first few weeks were complicated. I was working and going to school and he was working full time. We only had about an hour to two hours outside of our lives each night to talk. But even then I was usually doing homework during those hours. We found ourselves getting mad at each other because we couldn’t find the time to really talk or FaceTime and it was frustrating on both ends. When we finally settled into our new routines and found ways to talk, things got a little easier. We both think we settled down from being “hurt” when the other one was busy and just dealt with it which made things easier in the end.
The ultimate countdown until your back together can be draining but also exciting. We think for us, counting down each day helped us relax that it was only a few months and we would be back together. Towards the end of our long distance, it was also so overwhelming with excitement that we would honestly FaceTime and cry to each other about how we couldn’t wait to do the little things each day again.
Our tips to others going through long distance:
– Our first tip is to find a new routine that keeps you extremely busy with no time to think about that you’re a part. Like we said earlier, Josh was working 6 a.m.- 5 p.m. and would go to bed at 8 p.m. I was interning, working my blog, and going to school which wasn’t a consistent every day schedule but it kept me busy every hour. I also spent my time working out or watching a Netflix show with my roommate. Josh was at home with his family that kept him distracted a lot. We believe these busy schedules is what helped us get through the most because it motivated us to keep going and not think about something we’re not in control of anymore.
-Be excited and happy when you get the chance to text/call/FaceTime. The days we were both exhausted from life and then called each other pissed off, were the days we had the most issues. It’s difficult to not talk all day and then one person be angry or not in a good mood when you do talk. Whether you’re having a good or bad day, be kind and show your significant other you’re excited to have a little time to chat with them. That doesn’t mean though, that if you’re having a bad day, that you can’t share because I always had to tell Josh about my bad days in the summer because it helped me feel better.
-If y’all are upset at one another for whatever it is do not go to bed upset at one another. This is a tip we started a few months ago and made a promise to each other to hold to it. Long distance can be draining on a relationship and some days y’all will get mad at each other. We found that stepping away for 30 mins and then talking about it before bed to make sure no one went to bed angry really helped the few arguments and situations we got in.
-Talk to each other about your schedules and schedule in time to talk to each other that works best for y’all. We found that I would put homework on hold for an hour to talk to him at night and that’s what worked best for us. It was right before he went to bed and it was the best hour each day.
-Pray about it. For those that are religious, pray about it. I read my devotionals and said my prayers for us and Josh said his prayers. God was watching us all summer and I turned to him a lot when I got frustrated at the fact I couldn’t just go down the street and hug Josh or go to dinner. Long distance is really good for finding yourself again and putting your individual needs first, but it’s also very hard. Just know that there is (most likely) an end and the lord is watching down on you both together.
Thank y’all so much for reading and this was fun to write with Josh next to me to share our experience with long distance. We hope y’all enjoyed this. xx