I can’t believe my wedding series is basically over! This is the last post that I had planned actually. When we get our video, I will post it to the blog but other than that, this is the end of the wedding series! Sad day. To end the series, I wanted to share my POST wedding thoughts and reflection on the wedding.
Post Wedding Thoughts: Our Day-
When I think back to December 6th, I think nothing but “what a day of love.” Which is anything I think a bride could ask for. It was a BEAUTIFUL day filled with so many people from all of our walks of life thus far. I got to marry my best friend, the love of my life, and that’s all that truly mattered to me.
I remember my day being a WHIRLWIND. Like, what the heck you plan for over a year and it feels like it’s gone within 2 hours. I so badly wish I could’ve paused the night around 9pm and just taken it all in. It went by so fast but as I look back, I couldn’t have asked for a more perfect, love-filled day and I will forever cherish it and hold it near my heart. The best day of my LIFE!
Nothing Else Matters. At all.
For all bride to be’s reading this, I just want to remind you that NOTHING else matters that day. You may be stressed about moving dates right now, or maybe you & your fiancè are arguing about his tux, or your mom is stressing you out about linens, but let me remind you…. none of it matters.
I had a Pinterest board list about a mile long, I wanted every single little thing perfect and those weeks leading up when 10000 things went wrong, and I was stressed, I wish I could’ve shaken myself and told myself that on the day-of, I would not have cared if there was a single flower there, it still would’ve been perfect in my eyes.
Even on the day-of, I just woke up with this care-free attitude. Many things were left behind, forgotten about, didn’t happen on our day but I just honestly didn’t care. I learned about many things that were missing on our day too and I still look back and I’m like “oh well!” because the only thing that I cared about that day was seeing my husband and marrying him.
Actually, I made a promise to myself during the week-of that on the day-of our wedding, I was going to let all things go, soak every moment in, and also not reply to anyone that texted me about changes, not coming anymore, or anything like that. It was the best thing I could do for myself.
My Favorite & Least Favorite Part:
My Favorite part of the day was walking down that aisle, with my dad, and seeing my husband look at me for the first time. It was emotional, raw, and everything I dreamed of. Also, had to add another fave part was Marley (our dog) HOWLING and crying the whole time because she wanted to be next to us haha.
My least favorite part was the family & friends portraits haha. I still love and cherish this part of our day but I really didn’t prepare myself enough for this part and feel the need to share with you brides so you can prepare yourself. I wasn’t mentally ready to jump into photos. We were in a time crunch and I had JUST married my best friend. We instantly jumped into our bride and groom pics which were great but at the same time you’re both looking at each other during photos thinking “Um, hi, husband!!???” lol. Then, we instantly jumped to wedding party/family pictures and y’all… I almost lost it.
Like full on, didn’t know if I was going to start bawling crying or cuss someone out haha. No one’s fault AT ALL and no one did anything wrong plus our photographer made things as smooth and amazing as she could, but it was just still SO overwhelming. People were everywhere, our venue was small, family and friends that we needed for photos were ALL over the house mingling and people were yelling everywhere trying to get people together and I just remember standing there where I was supposed to, trying to take everything in, listening to my husband scream for his friends, family yelling to get other family, and I was just like “holy shit I’m going to start crying” hahahahah I just wanted to sit down, and breathe.
I have no clue why that part was so stressful to me, and so unorganized, but hey, gotta love friends and family for a little chaos haha! Despite 20 mins of craziness, it was all still SO FUN, amazing, and we are immensely blessed with the greatest friends, and two amazing families on both sides.
A Few Things You Learn:
And, although my wedding day was perfect in my eyes. As we’ve reflected back, and talked about our wedding thoughts, I wanted to share a few things we learned through the process.
- Who your real friends are. Or at least the ones who will make schedule changes, be there for you, and be a positive light in your life. We walked away from the whole engagement and wedding process feeling thankful that it allowed us to really reevaluate different friendships and people in our life to move forward with post-wedding.
- Patience. You REALLY learn how to have some patience y’all haha. With your husband, with strangers, with family…. A wedding takes a village that’s for sure.
- How blessed you really are. Nothing Like a Wedding to make you truly sit in awe of just how blessed you are. I’m not talking about blessed via nice things or money, but blessed for love, life, and friends. The day after the wedding we went to my parents hotel room and we all just cried about how none of us have ever felt so loved as we did the night before. It was humbling and truly incredible seeing a room full of people come to support you as newlyweds and your family.
Thank you so much for being apart of such a big moment in our life! I loved getting to share our day the past two months with y’all. Hope you enjoyed reading about my post wedding thoughts.
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Photography by: Laylee Emadi